The object of need becomes pulverized by the dimension of language

From early childhood, you have to use speech to express your needs. But the minute you use words to express something, you are in another register. If you need water, asking for it changes things.
The water matters less than whether my mother gives it to me.
The object of need becomes pulverized by the dimension of language: what matters now is not the object, the water, but the sign of love. Speaking thus introduces a particular form of loss in the world. To speak is to make the object vanish, since one is speaking to someone else.
The object of need becomes eclipsed in the demand.

uit: Lacan : a graphic guide - Darian Leader en Judy Groves